Peaceful 09

Rose Mary McAleer

March 1, 1929 ~ April 8, 2022 (age 93)


Rose Mary Boteler McAleer passed on to Eternal Life on Friday, April 8th, at home surrounded by her children after a short battle with pancreatic cancer. Rose Mary will be fondly remembered, not as a celebrity on the movie screen, although she had the beauty of a screen idol, but for her selfless giving of her time and talents with her family, friends and church community. She was a lector extraordinaire at Sunday Masses and many other church services at St. John Neumann Catholic Church in Ocean Pines, as well as maintaining the church library. As a member of the Ancient Order of Hibernians, the Knights of Columbus Ladies Auxiliary, her volunteering at Atlantic General Hospital and at Joseph House with the Little Sisters of Jesus and Mary, it was a wonder that she kept so busy, but never missed writing thank you notes, letters and all those birthday cards, some of which were home made with her artful talent.

Rose Mary was lay Carmelite and lived her life with a strong Catholic faith, alongside her husband, “Jack”, of 60 years rearing and educating a large close-knit family.

Born in Washington, D.C., on March 1, 1929 to Bernard Lamar and Kathrine Rose Boteler, the eldest of three in a home of faith, hard work and love during the Depression.

Rose Mary graduated in 1947 from St. Anthony Catholic School in N.E., growing up on Shepherd Street in Brookland. Rose Mary was athletic and could be found playing tennis on the courts at Turkey Thicket with the Franciscan Brothers. 

She married Jack in 1949 and moved to Wheaton, Md. to raise their family. St. Catherine Laboure was the family parish, school and hub of activities from the fifties through the eighties. Rose Mary was active with many of her children’s activities at school and served as Prefect of the Sodality.

In 1989, the move to Ocean Pines, Md. brought her much joy, loving the sunshine and the ocean, as well as her natural yard-scape and habitat.

Rose Mary was predeceased by her parents, Bernard L. and Kathrine, her husband John (Jack) H. McAleer, infant daughter, Bernadette Marie McAleer, brother Bernard Boteler, step mother Alma Boteler.

Rose Mary is survived by her children John Kevin, Thomas Michael (Kathy), Patrick Bernard (Sally), Janet Marie Bradford (Alan), Andrew Joseph (Barbara), James Arthur, Robert Francis (Kathy), Michael Anthony, Stephen Jerome (Beverly), Kathleen Marie Lorance (Keith), her brother John Stanton Boteler, brother Robert Eugene Boteler (Mary), sister Mary Elizabeth DeMattia (Anthony), 32 grandchildren, 23 great grandchildren and numerous nieces, nephews and dear friends.

A Memorial Mass will begin at 11am on Tuesday, April 19th at St. John Neumann Catholic Church in Berlin Md.  

On Wednesday, April 20th, at St. Patrick Catholic Church in Rockville, MD, Viewing will begin at 10:30am, followed by the Mass of Christian Burial at 11:30am.  Burial to follow at Gate of Heaven Cemetery in Silver Spring, MD.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made in Rose Mary’s name to The Joseph House, The Little Sisters of Jesus and Mary, 401 N. Poplar Hill Ave., Salisbury, Md. 21801,                


Mass of Christian Burial
April 19, 2022

11:00 AM
St. John Neumann Catholic Church
11211 Beauchamp Rd
Berlin, MD 21811

April 20, 2022

10:30 AM to 11:30 AM
St. Patrick's Catholic Church
4101 Norbeck Road
Rockville, MD 20853

Memorial Mass
April 20, 2022

11:30 AM
St. Patrick's Catholic Church
4101 Norbeck Road
Rockville, MD 20853

Interment following funeral service
April 20, 2022

Gate of Heaven Cemetery
13801 Georgia Avenue
Silver Spring, MD 20906


The Joseph House
The Little Sisters of Jesus and Mary, 401 N Poplar Hill Avenue, Salisbury MD 21801

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